If at First you Don't Succeed- Fix the Blame Quick!

By Dale Calvert

I heard all my life as a kid……If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

Don’t let a first-time failure stop further attempts.

For example, I know it’s hard at first to shift gears without stalling but if at first you don’t succeed . . .
This seemingly ancient adage was first recorded in 1840.

Zig Ziglar said
“The only difference between a Big Shot and a Little
Shot is a Little Shot is a Big Shot that Kept Shooting”

I have always felt that if other average people, with average intelligence can do it, then so can I.

There is not a week that goes by when I don’t wonder to myself, how somebody missed the memo?

I am a very un-opinionated person. ( I have no idea if un-opionated is a word, but hopefully you understand what I am trying to say). There is nothing that grinds my nerves more than hearing somebody babble about any topic that they have absolutely no background, experience or idea what they are talking about.

That is why I rarely visit MLM training forums or listen to talk radio.

It has been said “It is better to be thought of as ignorant, than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt”
However, if I KNOW something is True and has withstood the test of time, who am I to doubt it? I am not smart enough to doubt it so I choose to embrace it, internalize it, and never doubt it. What about you?

My entire marketing career, I have tried to stand on what I call, “The Wisdom of the Ages” and fight for what I know is true.

I don’t always like THE WAY IT IS, but I have learned to not fight it, and to work with the natural laws of success. Does that make sense?

It is a constant battle to control my self-talk and thoughts, but according to ever self-help book ever written, that is what we all must do if we expect to develop a Success mindset.


“As you Believe, so shall it be done unto you”
Mathew 9 :29

It bothers me that 70% of the population will die with their Music Still in them. It really upsets me.

As Hellen Keller said “Hell starts when the person you are meets the person you could have become”.

That statement is chilling to me.

But you know what, that is the way it is, I am not going to change that, and to try to fight it, is a waste of time, energy and thought.
The only person’s actions I can control are my own!

We live in a world where everything is somebody else’s fault. Accidents don’t happen in today’s sue happy world where 99% of the lawyers give they other 1% a bad name.

We have become a world full of pitiful , thumb suckers, what I call Victims. The marketing world is full of them, people that have the attitude if first I don’t succeed, fix the blame quick.

It is sad. But what is even worse is people that design their entire marketing message around these people.

I have come to the conclusion that Rich marketers tell the 70% what they want to hear and the rest of us do everything we can to tell people the truth.

Think about that statement.

How many marketing message do you see and hear every week that follow the same script.

•  I tried everything, bought everything and nothing worked

•  Then I stumbled upon this secret software or recruiting secret that the rich internet marketing gurus, or your upline doesn’t want you to know about

•  I only have a limited number of these magic widgets available, but if you act now you will never have to worry about money again.

•  You can laugh at everyone who told you it wouldn’t work and you couldn’t make it, so send me you $37 now, I am the only honest marketer in the world!

We have all seen this story or variations of it over and over from Ann “Throw Away Your Warm Market List” Sieg, to the Rich Internet Marketing Jerk Gurus telling people, you are a Victim, and it is not your fault, it is everybody else’s. They have done it to you!

(To all you Ann Sieg followers, don’t email me, I don’t care. I am sure she is a fine lady, this is not personal, I pulled her name out of the air, but I could have just as easily named another Attraction marketing guru that makes money from telling people what they want to hear)

Is this ever going to end, or is it just a reflection of the world we live in?

How can people ever expect to develop success in any area of their life if they are not will to accept responsibility?

When did the “Wisdom of the Ages” become Rocket Science?

TRUTH ….. You are where you are in your life because of what has gone into your mind, the ONLY WAY to change where you are is to change what goes into your mind”.

I can see how this becomes difficult for people when every time they open their email box or visit a website they have someone telling them it is not their fault, it is your old school upline or whatever.

Hey we all wish there was some secret software or recruiting system out there that we could spend $37.00 for and never have to think about money again.

But the guy sounded so sincere, It was like he understood all the things I have tried that didin’t work, etc. etc. I hear it all!

WAKE UP!

He is telling you what YOU WANT to HEAR, not what you NEED to hear!

Sincere??? Here is some wisdom of the ages for you …….

“Never mistake sincerity with truth, because some people are sincerely wrong!”
Jim Rohn

As leaders we have to tell people the TRUTH!

We have to understand and hold on to the WISDOM of THE AGES and never doubt.

You will never build a team with people who have victim mentalities. So you can either tell them the truth and guide them out of that mentality or you can try to constantly pump them up and pray they stay on auto-ship 1 more month.

Network marketing is about “Developing Leaders” and that can only be done, with people who are willing to take responsibility, grow learn, and develop.